Long Self Practice

The Spiritual practice of connecting to your past and future self.

Time isn’t linear. It is happening all at once.

Turns out time does not flow like water. Einstein said so. It is our awareness of existence that is linear.

Long Self is a term used by cognitive neuroscientist and futurist Dr. Julia Mossbridge and anthropologist Eric Wargo to describe the awareness of ourselves over time. This includes pictures and models of oneself from birth to death overlaid over one another. While awareness of one's younger self is easy, the mind-bending concept of connecting to our future self is possible and can become easier with practice.

🔮 Can you envision a time where an uninspired version of yourself is helped by a pep talk from your future self? 🔮 

In in her talk (starting at minute 52), Julia Mossbridge explains that regularly connecting with your future self can greatly enhance your well-being. A 5-day experiment where participants recorded messages to their future selves showed significantly increased levels of perceived well-being. The most impressive part is that the well-being of people with high and low ACEs scores matched after the five-day practice, which is an incredible result!

The practice

Borrowing a bit from Tara Brach's meditation playbook (linked below), engage in a dialogue with your future self. Sit down for a meditation, and envision your future self as a mentor of sorts. Talk to them, share what comes up, and then pause to receive guidance. Mossbridge stresses that the key lies in liking your future self and trusting that your future self has sage advice for you.

Does it work?

It is a comforting practice but I find my skeptical part wondering if I am just sitting there, making it all up. So my problem-solving part took the reins and here is what we came up with:
Consider the fact that time is not linear, if it is indeed happening all at once, then we could do the same practice backward. Starting from a place of knowing, the now. So, in order to strengthen this intuition muscle, this receiver, I write letters to my younger self, giving myself advice, complimenting myself on decisions that turned out to be the right ones, giving guidance at forks in the road, pep talks to when I was taking wrong turns and encouraging that it will all work out.

And, in this nonlinear time, those notes, like breadcrumbs through time, strengthen my receiver for the advice yet to come. As I refine my connection with my past self, I’m tuning in to insights that echo back from my older, wiser, and more mature self. It works!

Future Self MEDITATION

These are the recordings I use.

A 7 min short one and a longer 12min sit.

by Tara Brach

LETTERS TO MYSELF

Intimate notes to self, lessons I learned in my 20s and 30s, about accountability, agency, partnership, parenting, awareness, self-care, self-love and more.